One of the most frustrating experiences in work settings is to find yourself in a room filled with people who are playing nice. While pleasant to the point of bland, these groups are deathly dull and bring little productivity to the enterprise.
What to do?
Recognize that team formation is as much a strategic initiative as anything else you do in your enterprise. Sometimes it makes sense to craft a team carefully, at other times it is better to let a skilled facilitator drive the process and get to a desired result. Both models are legitimate strategies, but assuming that facilitation or team-building is always necessary is illegitimate.
Building Bonds of Intimacy
If the team will be staying together for an extended project or leadership task, it makes sense to spend some time up front building relationships and fostering trust. Teams that collaborate on longer projects will inevitably go through periods of internal conflict, external pressures and unanticipated challenges. More than strategy or facilitation, the bonds between team members will sustain them through the tough times.
Significant Life Roles
Most of us have been through some type of team-awareness exercise where we completed an inventory (think DISC, Meyers-Briggs, etc.) and then shared our results with the team. This can lead to months and years of labeling and stale jokes. Significant life roles has the upside of personal disclosure, without the generic labeling of pre-packaged inventories.
Here's a simple, 30-minute exercise called "Significant Life Roles" that you can use to build team familiarity and disclose personal values:
1. Have team members identify 5-9 roles that they play, ie: father, executive, volunteer, etc. Write each role on an index card, then order the cards from most important to less important.
2. Based on prompts from the facilitator, reveal your roles from less important to more important. The facilitator can prompt discussion of each role with questions such as, "Discuss your strengths in playing this role." or "How would you feel if you had to stop playing this role." “When did you start playing this role?” “What have you learned as you mature in this role?” As team members reveal their roles and discuss them, you learn a lot about their identity, values and self-concept.
3. Before revealing the final role, have the team predict what they think the most significant role will be for everyone else in the team. This exercise gets quickly to some significant and sometimes dramatic personal revelations and bonding.